Contrary to popular belief, being crazy isn’t cute. There’s no such thing as “good crazy,” either. Being “crazy” is not something to be proud of.
Let me start off by saying this: I, myself, have boasted in being coined as crazy. Not only did I agree to being crazy, but my actions reflected the craziness I boasted about. I was the girl who had no shame in pop ups and pop offs. I was indeed crazy. I looked through phones, looked through tweets and captions, and looked through drawers. I was always looking for something. I acted crazy and was proud to call myself: the crazy girlfriend.
Looking back, boasting in my craziness was foolish. Crazy screams insecurity. Insecurity within yourself and within your relationship. Either you’re a broken girl who has yet to become a whole woman, a woman with a man who she doesn’t trust, or both. Either way, there’s a problem. Plus, craziness and unhealthiness go hand-in-hand. A relationship that is unhealthy is a relationship destined for mess.
If you’re a broken girl who has yet to become a whole woman, then it’s time for you to stop searching for someone to complete you and seek the Lord and His love. He is the only one who can fill the voids you have. If you’re a woman with a man who she doesn’t trust, then you might want to leave that man alone. The only reason why we don’t trust men is because 1) we’re still hurt from our past 2) he’s done something or somethings that have led us to that “crazy” state or 3) he hasn’t made his intentions and heart clear to us… If your situation is number 3, then you should still leave him alone. A man who is truly into you won’t leave you wondering, confused, or skeptical. Men are hunters. They work for what they want. Men will also have no problem claiming what is theirs. If this man wants you, you’ll know. He’ll reassure you every chance he gets through his actions and words.
Anyway, no where in the Bible does it say a crazy woman is to be praised. It doesn’t say a single thing about being crazy, psycho, insecure, etc. In fact, it says that opposite.
“It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.” – Proverbs 21:19 (NLT)
This scripture advises men to STAY AWAY from women who are constantly arguing and nagging. So, don’t be surprised if your man breaks up with you because you’re a headache. He’s doing the right thing. (Sorry, sis!) As future wives, we don’t want our future husbands to come home from work with a headache and then have to deal with another. We should strive to be their escape, not their duty or tolerance.
Proverbs 31 gives a great illustration of a wife with noble character. She is the type women we should aspire to be. Verse 11 says that “her husband can trust her” and that “she will greatly enrich his life.” Another version translates it as “her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” As women, we should give our men a reason to have full confidence in us. If you’re dating a man now, practice giving him reasons to trust you. He should trust you in private and in public. – Some of us don’t get asked out by our significant others not because he’s being sneaky, but because he doesn’t trust our behavior in public. No one wants to be embarrassed!
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” – Proverbs 31: 25 (NLT)
This scripture is relevant to so many situations. It is important to not fear what the future holds, especially in a relationship. When we allow fear to win, it robs us of the strength and dignity we possess from the Lord. Crazy also stems from fear – fear of rejection, fear of being played, and fear of being single forever. If you are a “crazy girl,” I encourage you to meditate on Proverbs 31: 25, and bring all your fears, insecurities, and trust issues to God. If you are single, then this is a perfect time for you grow in some areas and grow deeper in Christ. If you are in a relationship, then ask God to reveal why your behavior is the way it is. He might show you that you could use some work, or He might show you that your man could use some work. Either way, invite God into your life and your relationship. He writes our love stories, not us and our crazy behavior.
Scriptures about/for the Godly woman
Genesis 2: 18-24 : God creates woman.
Proverbs 31:10-31 : A wife of noble character
1 Timothy 2: 9-15 : Women in the church/ Godly women goals
1 Timothy 3: 11 : Wives of church leaders
Titus 2: 3-5 : Women and right teaching